I wondered while typing this up this morning if this was going to make it appear that I was dissing my buddies. I do not mean to. I would dive with either of them again. But I'll type this up to clarify a response I got by PM.
First off, I think the fantastic dive the day before (in addition to a few other fine dives) meant that we were in the mindset of "we dive well together and we have no problems." At least that's the way *I* thought. Second off, I did NOT signal my buddies that I was having a problem. I didn't respond with an OK, but nor did I give any signal to indicate that I had a problem. Most of the time I don't swim side by side with my buddies, but I won't dive people if they ditch their buddies, either. Third off, (well this affected my second off, too).... this was an escalating problem. So while what seemed fairly reasonable at one point, became more problematic with time. Fourth off, this happened several years ago, and I am sure I am not recalling things exactly as they happened--well all the details anyway. I believe I am correct in what I wrote, but that it probably has some gaps in what all happened. Fifth off, I believe Carl did specifically attempt to solve my problem before we went to Olsen, but my memory is fuzzy on that. I am relating the part of the incident that sticks in my mind with respect to me, under certain circumstances, that would make me willing to exit an unconfirmed exit. I *think* that Carl tried to re-attach my fin, but the problem was the zipper going down and without Carl crawling between my legs (!!), he probably wouldn't have seen that.
To repeat, I have no complaints of my buddies. Under different circumstances, had I known that "hey, I have a fin problem." I would have signaled them, they would have waited, offered to assist, etc. I have another buddy who specifically says that he doesn't overly offer to help because some people don't like others butting in (unless the person asks for help). Indeed, I've become pissed at people who monkey with me and my gear without my permission/request.
And this is perhaps my overall point. What comes across as a cut and dried "follow the rules" argument, doesn't always work that way in real life.
And finally, to make it clear to the person who PMed, me.... When I said Carl took off like a bat out of hell. No, he didn't. He swam at the same rate as we'd swum together the day before. I was me who was swimming abnormally slowly with no apparent reason. I *thought* I was swimming at the day before's rate. It was only when the fin became nearly useless, that I realized *I* was the problem.

